To Be a Man - In Relationship to Himself
Copyright © 2006 by Baruti K. Kafele
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1. A man reads regularly – he is a life-long learner. 2. A man is in life-long pursuit of his history. 3. A man strives to diversify his knowledge and experiences. 4. A man has high standards and expectations for himself. 5. A man is goal-oriented. 6. A man sets goals and develops strategies to achieve them. 7. A man aligns himself with positive, goal-oriented people. 8. A man believes in his ability to achieve his goals. 9. A man defines his purpose in life. 10. A man is driven by his purpose. 11. A man understands his obligation to achieve his goals. 12. A man is determined to achieve his goals. 13. A man develops a vision for achieving his goals. 14. A man engages in self-reflection and self-assessment daily. 15. A man doesn't overindulge in meaningless recreational activities. 16. A man is constantly searching for creative new ways to solve old problems. 17. A man is proud of who he is as a Black or Latino man and pleased with who he is as a man. 18. A man demonstrates proper decorum in all situations. 19. A man is conscious of his appearance as a man. 20. A man is not afraid to take a stand for what's right - he has courage. 21. A man demands to be heard. 22. A man is able to endure and overcome adversity from his adversaries. 23. A man does not allow himself to be defeated by the obstacles and challenges of his adversaries. 24. A man does not allow himself to be defeated by the obstacles and challenges of life. 25. A man turns his obstacles and challenges into opportunities for success. 26. A man is able to bounce back from setbacks. 27. A man maintains a positive attitude. 28. A man is not a quitter - he is a fighter. 29. A man strives to maintain employment or start his own business. 30. A man strives to provide for himself – to be self-sufficient. 31. A man doesn't settle for mediocrity for himself. 32. A man will not accept failure for himself. 33. A man doesn't abuse his body and mind with alcohol and narcotics. 34. A man does not see himself as nor refer to himself by the “N” word. 35. A man eats foods that are healthy while shying away from foods that are harmful. 36. A man loves, appreciates, respects and feels a sense of responsibility for his people. 37. A man makes wise decisions which keep him out of the criminal justice system – he is not a law breaker. 38. A man doesn't see other Black and Latino men as his enemy - he sees other Black and Latino men as his brothers and allies. 39. A man respects, values, appreciates and strives to get along with other Black and Latino men. 40. A man is conscious of how his words / actions may impact the feelings of others. 41. A man resolves his conflicts peacefully. 42. A man does not resort to violence towards resolving conflict with others. 43. A man understands that he is his brother's keeper. 44. A man is a positive role model and mentor to other men – particularly the youth. 45. A man engages in community work while maintaining a relationship with his community – despite whatever successes or failures he may have experienced. 46. A man loves God. 47. A man is connected to God. 48. A man prays to God. 49. A man praises God. 50. A man strives to do God's will regularly.
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