To Be a Man - In Relationship to Himself

 Copyright © 2006 by Baruti K. Kafele

 

1.               A man reads regularly – he is a life-long learner.

2.               A man is in life-long pursuit of his history.

3.               A man strives to diversify his knowledge and experiences.

4.               A man has high standards and expectations for himself.

5.               A man is goal-oriented.

6.               A man sets goals and develops strategies to achieve them.

7.               A man aligns himself with positive, goal-oriented people.

8.               A man believes in his ability to achieve his goals.

9.               A man defines his purpose in life.

10.          A man is driven by his purpose.

11.          A man understands his obligation to achieve his goals.

12.          A man is determined to achieve his goals.

13.          A man develops a vision for achieving his goals.

14.          A man engages in self-reflection and self-assessment daily.

15.          A man doesn't overindulge in meaningless recreational activities.

16.          A man is constantly searching for creative new ways to solve old problems.

17.          A man is proud of who he is as a Black or Latino man and pleased with who he is as a man.

18.          A man demonstrates proper decorum in all situations.

19.          A man is conscious of his appearance as a man.

20.          A man is not afraid to take a stand for what's right - he has courage.

21.          A man demands to be heard.

22.          A man is able to endure and overcome adversity from his adversaries.

23.          A man does not allow himself to be defeated by the obstacles and challenges of his  adversaries.

24.          A man does not allow himself to be defeated by the obstacles and challenges of life.

25.          A man turns his obstacles and challenges into opportunities for success.

26.          A man is able to bounce back from setbacks.

27.          A man maintains a positive attitude.

28.          A man is not a quitter - he is a fighter.

29.          A man strives to maintain employment or start his own business.

30.          A man strives to provide for himself – to be self-sufficient.

31.          A man doesn't settle for mediocrity for himself.

32.          A man will not accept failure for himself.

33.          A man doesn't abuse his body and mind with alcohol and narcotics.

34.          A man does not see himself as nor refer to himself by the “N” word.

35.          A man eats foods that are healthy while shying away from foods that are harmful.

36.          A man loves, appreciates, respects and feels a sense of responsibility for his people.

37.          A man makes wise decisions which keep him out of the criminal justice system –   he is not a law breaker.

38.          A man doesn't see other Black and Latino men as his enemy - he sees other Black and Latino  men as his brothers  

        and allies.

39.          A man respects, values, appreciates and strives to get along with other Black and Latino men.

40.          A man is conscious of how his words / actions may impact the feelings of others.

41.          A man resolves his conflicts peacefully.

42.          A man does not resort to violence towards resolving conflict with others.

43.          A man understands that he is his brother's keeper.

44.          A man is a positive role model and mentor to other men – particularly the youth.

45.          A man engages in community work while maintaining a relationship with his community –  despite whatever 

         successes or failures he may have experienced.

46.          A man loves God.

47.          A man is connected to God.

48.          A man prays to God.

49.          A man praises God.

50.          A man strives to do God's will regularly.